Monday, January 11, 2016

Naomi Neo and Tan Jian Hao Broke Up

It was 2 months ago in November that Naomi Neo, a very famous vlogger and blogger in Singapore, announced in her blog post that she and her Singaporean  blogger now businessman boyfriend, Tan Jian Hao or better known on YouTube as thejianhaotan, has broken up for good. For real. As real as social media became our everyday life like we are merely characters in The Sims game. Just like how we thought The Sims was as near we could get to being controlling our profiles and image on the Internet 10 years ago, who would have ever imagined we were far from wrong about the perfect sweet relationship of Naomi Neo and Tan Jian Hao, as they show on social medias

Disclaimer: this post is entirely about personal opinions and may be tough to swallow. If not up to it, you have been warned to exit now. Good bye!

Naomi is 19 years old. According to her "breakup blog post", she has been in a relationship with Jian Hao for 1.5 years and had a previous heartbroken relationship. This means that she dated Jian Hao at 17 years old and dated before 17. Wow. That is young. At 17, I remember studying very hard and that was basically my life. Jian Hao is 22 years old and dated her since he was 20. I have 5 points to make regarding the situation.

1) I suppose to a third party, it was a relationship that was impossible. A vain model seeking for fame that dated Mr Average but growing in popularity who is a sweet talker and gets the nice looking girl who lost her virginity (sorry for the crudeness but that was how she put it) as she has announced on her one of her vlog videos Q&A. Mr Average wants to show off his young and nice looking girlfriend and at the same time, "date" her when she's young. "Date" as in you know what I mean. Girl falls into sweet talk and gets opens pants. Seriously, have you known never to date such guys? The finale was expected. 

2) but then again there are sincere guys. So how can we differentiate. So I come to my second point, the girl is easy and too sexy. Point number 2, the best guys won't take advantage of you, the bad ones make it sound like they are not. So there it is.

3) they see each other everyday. What's wrong with that? Yes, and you shouldn't too early in the relationship or if it's u stable. It's nice to stick together. So after awhile you run out of topics to talk about, Naomi mentions. Then don't be together everyday. Have your own life. Sticking together ruins the relationship. It's ok to hang out with your other friends. Guys or girls. You're still young. And yet still be together. 

4) Jian Hao got bored and he didn't even know why. Maybe because looks don't last forever. Internal beauty which has to be cultivated will last at whatever age. Don't be evil ever

5) lastly if they are Soulmates, they won't feel like they're with each other too much in a day. Leave and find your Soulmates, someone who understands you and treasure you every single step of the way. 

Thursday, January 7, 2016

Tai Tai vs Housewife vs Working Woman - The Difference

Hi all, welcome to another episode of Spot the Difference. Today I'm going to clarify and define the topic above. 

Tai tai. 
You google and can find no meaning that can succinctly describe this noun. Tai tai is a married woman who has abundance of leisure time, abundance of money at her disposal, and a lifestyle of luxury and extravagance and traveling at her whims any time, anywhere. She, most importantly, is 100% funded by her great husband only, who earns an extremely high salary or is very wealthy to support her lifestyle and living as such. She does not have to worry a day about money at all, get away from the stress, pressures, bullying, struggles and monotony of work life. She has breakfast prepared for her every morning, does not go into the kitchen to cook or wash, does not clean or do the laundry, she does not drive or take any public transport to get around because she either has a personal driver hired for her or is being driven around. Even though she has a license. She lives in a bungalow or big house, not an 1 apartment in a development. It's important, because a house can park several cars that she buys and have 1 room each for her many boys and girls and also have allocation the many remaining spare rooms for a home theatre, waredrobe, karaoke. And have 1-2 maids. Her luxurious lifestyle involves shopping, buying expensive genuine leather bags and make up, going for facial treatments weekly, slimming if applicable, and other weekly treatment to enhance her appearance and beauty. She is certainly not fake. Her husband spends time telling her jokes, saying she is beautiful and making sure she gets everything that she needs and wants to keep her happy all the time. 

She is the lady of the house, Princess of the kingdom and Queen of her husband. 

These are the wives of rich men, if you find yourself checking all the list above, let me shake your hand because CONGRATULATIONS! You are the top 1% of 7 billion people in this world. To be less than 1%, it depends on how rich your net worth is, but being the top 1% is fascinating  and difficult enough to achieve. 

How to become and who becomes this highly coverted role as privileged wealthy status in today's society in 2016? What kind of man to choose? What differentiates the type of women who become tai tais or housewifes? Tai tai gets tons of jealousy so lets be careful about our discussion. I will follow up in another post. Remind me if I don't.

It is extremely different from a tai tai. There are vast differences. Anyone can be a housewife. A housewife is a married woman who is not working, with or without children doesn't affect, someone who stays at home to do the cleaning of the house, sweeping, cleaning the spiderwebs, catching the lizards and cockroaches, washing dirty laundry of her husband and children and her own. Kitchen is her workplace, where she has to prepare or find her own breakfast and for her whole family, cook meals under sweltering heat of the wok, wash the dishes after because her husband is too busy and tired after work and needs to rest for the next day of work. He won't be helping so she has her job to finish. Note that being a housewife is actually a job. But it is not officially considered a job in world terms because it does not yield money. A housewife is not paid for her services or effort in monetary terms. So among the 3 positions discussed, a housewife has the least money, tai tai has the most, followed by the working woman. A housewife helps around the house, not because she wants to mostly but because she has to. That's the job of a married woman. She should not have her own savings, have not much money on her own, and depend on her husband to pay for her daily expenses for her and her family. It's not much, so she has to save and scrimp or she will laden her husband with expenses that will put pressure and strain on his average salary. 

Working women
Adj and Noun 
Working women, assuming married since we are all talking about married women here, earn their own money, co share their expenses with her husband. She works and mostly overlap with housewife roles such a washing and cleaning if she or her husband are combined both not drawing a high enough salary. So that's double job for the ladies, which most, I would say 80% of today's women fall into. It's not so bad right? Since we are all capable productive women- or is that what our government would like us to think? ;)

It's not difficult to define as 90% of all women are working in Singapore, our modern garden city. You're reading are probably one.  


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